Understanding Your Habits
Why the behaviours you struggle with make sense
Most habits we label as “bad” aren’t personal failures.
They’re coping strategies — ways of meeting real underlying needs like comfort, relief, rest, control, or emotional regulation.
That’s why willpower rarely solves them.
When you only focus on stopping a behaviour, you can miss what it’s doing for you — and the habit tends to return when life gets busy, stressful, or overwhelming.
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This page takes a different approach:
Understanding the role your habits play, without judgement or shame — so change becomes more realistic, supportive, and sustainable.
Because lasting change doesn’t begin with trying harder.
It begins with awareness.
A behaviour-first lens (in plain language)
When you understand a habit, you start to see three things more clearly:
- What triggers it (the moment, feeling, or situation that sets it off)
- What need it meets (comfort, relief, stimulation, connection, control, or rest)
- What keeps it going (patterns, environment, stress, fatigue, identity, routines)
Common habits people want help with
Below are some of the most common patterns people struggle with.
Not because they’re “weak” — but because these habits often make sense in context.
Emotional eating
Often less about food — and more about comfort, relief, stress, or depletion.
Phone scrolling
Sometimes “mindless” on the surface, but often driven by stimulation needs, avoidance, or overload.
Procrastination
Not laziness — often a protective behaviour that reduces discomfort, uncertainty, or fear of getting it wrong.
Alcohol use
For many people it’s not about excess — it’s about switching off and finding relief when rest feels hard to access.
Smoking / vaping
Often serves as regulation, relief, pause, or a moment of control in a demanding day.
If this resonates
If you’ve ever felt like you “know what to do” but can’t get it to stick, you’re not alone.
Most people don’t fail at change — their plan fails when it doesn’t account for real life.
If you’d like support applying this in real life, you can explore my structured coaching program here:
12-Week Coaching Journey
https://healthandwellnesscoach.com.au/12-week-coaching-journey
Change doesn’t need more pressure. It needs better support.
Free ebook
If you’d like a quiet starting point, I’ve created a short ebook that explores why change is hard — and what helps.
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